Your story about Blossom is taking me back to some core childhood memories. I really appreciate this framing - it is connecting a lot of dots for me. And I’m left with a deep desire to soak in a tub and just be with it all - so much yes!
those early memories are poignant in part because we didn't separate needs and wants. At times, a rejection of a want felt like a rejection of us because we didn't yet know that a feeling passes. So often, we were the feeling we felt in the moment.
It's so true and fascinating, I am told to tell my toddlers that it's okay if they feel angry and to let it out in a healthy way and I'm here for a hug when they feel calm again. We need to give ourselves as adults permission to feel too
Amen to this. Gotta move through it. Not always all at once & sometimes it comes out of nowhere. You don't see it coming until right then. Having a good cry helps me. Exercise & baths too 🙂🙏 and it's also okay to zone out sometimes and take a break lol
Anna, what a beautiful way to describe self-acceptance. I love, "so much of my discomfort wasn’t coming from the feelings themselves. It was coming from my resistance to them. From the way I abandoned myself the moment they arose." Perhaps, it is not other people's validation that we seek as much as our own; that we feel what we feel, full stop. thank you!
I have similar memories from childhood too, and I think the reactions of others have caused me to push down a lot of those feelings and emotions as an adult. This was helpful, a good reminder that it’s okay to feel and make space for these emotions even if they rise from you more often than you’d like (or more so perception of how often others deem it acceptable).
Your story about Blossom is taking me back to some core childhood memories. I really appreciate this framing - it is connecting a lot of dots for me. And I’m left with a deep desire to soak in a tub and just be with it all - so much yes!
those early memories are poignant in part because we didn't separate needs and wants. At times, a rejection of a want felt like a rejection of us because we didn't yet know that a feeling passes. So often, we were the feeling we felt in the moment.
It's so true and fascinating, I am told to tell my toddlers that it's okay if they feel angry and to let it out in a healthy way and I'm here for a hug when they feel calm again. We need to give ourselves as adults permission to feel too
Amen to this. Gotta move through it. Not always all at once & sometimes it comes out of nowhere. You don't see it coming until right then. Having a good cry helps me. Exercise & baths too 🙂🙏 and it's also okay to zone out sometimes and take a break lol
Anna, what a beautiful way to describe self-acceptance. I love, "so much of my discomfort wasn’t coming from the feelings themselves. It was coming from my resistance to them. From the way I abandoned myself the moment they arose." Perhaps, it is not other people's validation that we seek as much as our own; that we feel what we feel, full stop. thank you!
I love this and the process that you experienced for learning how to validate your own feelings 🤍
I have similar memories from childhood too, and I think the reactions of others have caused me to push down a lot of those feelings and emotions as an adult. This was helpful, a good reminder that it’s okay to feel and make space for these emotions even if they rise from you more often than you’d like (or more so perception of how often others deem it acceptable).